IF YOU HAVEN'T READ THIS ARTICLE... YOU SHOULD. I'M ABOUT TO GO OFF ON IT.
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5 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night
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Oh where do I even begin...
Yes, your man has needs. Most do. BUT so do women. My job isn't to satisfy anyone. It's a two-way street. I'm in a committed relationship. I have a ring on my finger and a child as a result of such a commitment made. Now, this article is suppose to empower women to get their men off so that in turn, they too will feel sexy and better about themselves and the writer even mentions doing this after having a baby. STOP RIGHT THERE. I'm sorry, but did these men carry around a child for nearly 10 months? Did they stop drinking caffeine, alcohol, stop eating fish, processed meat and take disgusting prenatal vitamins to sustain a life that was created by two people? Did they throw up EVERYTHING they ate for 3 months? Did they have to get stretch marks, wider hips and swollen feet all in the name of pregnancy? Here's the quick answer- NO. No they did not. I'm not saying they were not supportive through the whole ordeal, but what they experienced and what women experienced through pregnancy is uncomparable. Did they have ridiculous mood swings for no reason? Did they push a child out of their vaginas? Did they have to deal with the postpartum recovery? NO.
All of these changes that a woman has gone through and all the changes she is left with afterwards is topped with the responsibility and constant struggle of trying to raise a child. Add your daily life into the mix of work, household chores, lack of sleep, finances, medical bills and you have enough stress and exhaustion to last a lifetime (and I'm sure it will).
So why is this woman so concerned with satisfying the man? And better yet, why is she trying to give you false examples as to how it will benefit you? Hey guys, you want to get your woman to have sex with you after a baby? Here are some real tips:
1) GIVE US TIME.
And I don't mean an hour. And I don't mean time to go grocery shopping. I mean, babysit your child for a while, alone. If you can bring life into this world then you can manage a few hours taking care of said child. In that time you would be amazed at how much we can change. Sick of us talking about how gross and fat we feel? Then by you taking care of our baby a woman can workout a bit, shower, do her hair and makeup and get dressed in something other than sweats! Holy shit, we may even be able to iron something! That's enough to make us feel confident and beautiful and ready to take on the day and feel like the woman you fell in love with. Act like we won't get excited seeing a man taking care of his child. You will def get laid for that.
2) CLEAN UP.
Not when we ask but on your own accord. It's simple. Mothers are tired. We work hard taking care of a house and everyone in it. Nothing causes more stress for a woman than a long to do list to tackle. Nothing makes a woman more insane than constantly having to ask her man to help her with it. So why not stop this vicious bitch before she comes out? It's so easy. You make a sandwich? Wipe up the crumbs. You make a mess in the bathroom? Clean it up. Laundry needs to be folded? Fold it. Dishes need to be done? Grab the sponge. Nothing is more infuriating to a mother than having to pick up after herself and her kids all day and then add a grown man's messes to the list of chores for her to do. The more messes pile up, the less we focus on winding down with a glass of wine with you and seeing where the night may lead. Instead we are rushing around when the kids are asleep cleaning it all up. So that time could have been your "alone" time together. But instead, we fall asleep on the couch with a dustpan in our hands instead of that well deserved glass of Pinot.
3) REMEMBER.
We have our minds on everything other than sex? It's not like we do this on purpose, it's just how life is now. We have to remember to do so much. We aren't the only ones with accent to a calendar. If a bill needs to be paid or the baby needs a bath, by all means, go ahead and do it. We will be so grateful, you have no idea. We're running low on milk, at least write in on the grocery list! That could earn you a blow job by the end of the night. It's one less thing we have to handle on our own and it's the greatest feeling having something lifted off our shoulders. Once these little things are off our minds, then we have more time to focus on our men.
**I should put a disclaimer in here somewhere. What I have wrote here are just a few examples that we have learned throughout this parenting process.I also am able to trade stories with my other girlfriends and the obstacles they are facing on this subject. These three things have a huge impact on our lives and how we have managed to or attempted to fix them. It is in no way my particular life or my girlfriend's but a combination.We are all very happy in our relationships and these things do not happen on a daily basis for me or my girlfriends, but they have been hindrances at one point or another. Every relationship has needs and wants that need to be made. One article does not fit all. These suggestions are merely that. I just really dislike the article I have seen floating around and this is a response to that. :)
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